Last week I saw something that really opened my eyes, and I just wanted to take a moment to talk about it with y'all.
I was watching instagram stories the other day and came across a husband and wife that were talking about a very interesting subject. One that I found hit home! This couple was talking about how it's being said that all over social media and in the blogging world people are posting all these photos of a "fake life" and the effect it's having on people.
They say these posts are only showing the best of people's lives whereas in reality it took a lot of work to make it look that way. You don't get to see the normal everyday life behind those pictures; the real life struggles that everyone has. What you see instead are beautiful homes, amazing remodels, beautiful families all dressed up, adventurous vacations, and/or how successful they are within their professions, for example; my photographs, and posts about being booked, or busy. People notice that some people have a lot more likes than others. This couple went on to say how in our society that's what people look at and think.....Why can't my house look like that? Why can't my kids always look so perfect like theirs, or why can't I have a car like that or go on a vacation like that? Why can't my photos look like that? Why don't those people like my photos? Why can't my calendar stay booked up?......Why, Why WHY??????? Before long we start to think, well what's wrong with me? And let me tell you I've probably thought all of those things at one point or another, and that, my friends, is what's wrong!
When everyone is seeing all of these other people's feeds that look and sound perfect they don't realize that everyone has kids that are in mismatched clothes with food or even dried snot on their faces, that ALL marriages struggle!!!!! That a lot of people have had financial trouble at some point in their lives.....this couple pointed out that "we are comparing our normal to someone's best!" And wow!!!! How true is that??!!??
That story brings me to this... On New Years Eve I won this giveaway for something called Power Sheets. Now I almost didn't enter because I NEVER win ANYTHING.....but I did, and I WON!!!!!! I was so excited! I'd never owned any of these, but several Photogs that I follow were all talking about them and how much they loved them, so I wanted them.... and guess what? They were SOLD OUT!!! I was so disappointed. So when I won a set I was ecstatic!!! They finally came in, and I also received 2 books written by the creator of the power sheets. I'm not finished reading them yet, but I will say that I believe that God puts people and things in your life how he sees fit, and though it might sound crazy to you all, I believe he allowed me to receive these books and power sheets because they were EXACTLY what I needed. I say all that to get to this......in doing these power sheets I came across something that caught my attention......
Did you read that??? Comparison isn't only the thief of joy, it's the thief of EVERYTHING!!!! I read that, and I read it again, then I underlined it because it is so very true!!!! So many times I have found myself playing the same comparison game I previously mentioned; in my home, in my marriage, in my family, in my business. When I am doing that I feel so bad about myself that I have thoughts about quitting something I love and I am so passionate about. It puts me in a bad mood and causes me to be snappy to my family, or not answer my phone when friends or loved ones call because I'm too depressed to talk.....Why? Because my calendar wasn't booked a year in advance, or I didn't get to travel all over the world......all because I was comparing my everyday life to other's best.
So, yes, it might be February, but it's not too late to start your 2018 goals......We should all make a goal right now to put down the phone/tablet/computer more and QUIT playing the comparison game!!!
Another interesting thing I watched this week about being addicted to our phones, social media, or other forms of technology is that if you wake up and before you say good morning to your spouse or family you are checking your phone and your social accounts then that's bad!
So a goal of mine for 2018 is to put down my phone more........
So if you are still here with me , and still reading this, I'm sorry this week you didn't get to see pictures of a couple in love, and sorry for the long post. I just wanted to join in and try to help people see that we shouldn't compare our normal to other's best!!! Because in the end, it won't matter!!
As an ode to "keeping it real" here's a glimpse into my real life...not always rainbows and unicorns!
Happy Friday y'all!!!